Every so often my husband and I will have a disagreement about something silly like football or grocery shopping, and those small disagreements often go from 0-60 quickly because (regardless of whether he is right or wrong), I can sometimes push things too far.
Women are called to lead many things. Women raise children, run organizations, head ministries…you name it, we do it. Women also serve in supporting roles in many areas. In my opinion, a great leader must know how to lead as well as follow, and we can lead & follow with the best of them. So why is it so hard for us to “get in formation” when it comes to our husbands? (I know I’m using it differently than Beyonce’ meant it, but stay with me 😊) Let’s be honest; being a helpmeet is no easy job. There is a huge deal of responsibility, and when you aren’t operating at full strength things around you are likely to suffer in some way. Most importantly being a great helpmeet requires you to strike a balance between what you want personally and what is best for a given situation. To put it plain, you have to be humble.
In one of my favorite readings, humility is defined as meekness, modesty, submissiveness; and it takes a humble spirit to truly submit. To submit means to accept or yield to a superior force or to the authority or the will of another person. Wives are charged to submit to their husbands. Yes, we hold a great responsibility to create a home full of peace and comfort for our families. But we don’t do these things just because “it’s a woman’s job”, we don’t do it because our husbands tell us to. We submit because that is exactly what the Lord instructed us to do. (Ephesians 5:22) The Word advises husbands and wives to love each other with genuine affection and take delight in honoring each other. (Romans 12:10) Even though a marriage relationship is one that has many highs and lows, it’s important to remember that marriage is also a partnership. God designed marriage in a way that there is always someone there to sharpen you and help you to be your best. (Psalms 27:17) To do that however, you must trust your partner, and most importantly trust God. If we really believe in God and His Word, then we will reject the urge to disrespect our husbands when they are wrong. We will in no way, shape, or form try to play our husband’s role and try to be the “head” of our marriage. The Word is clear – the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. As the church submits to Christ, a godly wife should submit to her husband. Likewise, a godly husband should love his wife as Christ loved the church. (Ephesians 5:23-25) Plainly put, the marriage relationship is a mirror of the relationship between the church and Jesus Christ.
God’s Word gives us guidance to follow so that we can fully enjoy the good times, and always come out on top when the enemy is attacking our marriages in the not so good times. (The enemy is out to DESTROY marriages that honor God…trust me!) We must do what’s right, now, as the Lord advises. Pushing off doing the right thing until later will ALWAYS be too late. We must humble ourselves before the Lord and He will lift us up in honor. (James 4:10) This is not my favorite topic to discuss, but important nonetheless. We empower one another to work hard, to make our own money, to be our own boss, and ALL of those things are important. Likewise, it is even more important to empower each other as Sisters in Christ to do this thing the way God intended. Walk with a spirit of humility, honor your husband, Get In Formation!
“Humility is not an ideal, it is the unconscious result of life being rightly related to God.” – Oswald Chambers